Caught my teenage cousin with my man

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you with tears in my eyes. I never thought that I would have to write to you. I am living with a man who was introduced to me by my aunt.

She told me that he was a good man who was looking for someone to take care of his little daughter, who had lost her mother in a crash. This man had an unfinished house. I started to live with him and the child's grandmother gave her up because I promised that I would take care of the little girl. Her grandmother kept her during the day and I used to pick her up and take her home. Sometimes her father picks her up.

I have a 15-year-old cousin who came to stay with me. The plan was that she would attend school because living in the country, she did not attend school often. I did not have any reason not to trust my boyfriend. But this girl kept her eyes on him. I noticed that she would do extra things for him. She would wash, and when it comes to ironing, she would iron his shirts first.

My boyfriend gave me money to give her every week. But I did not know that she went behind my back to ask him for more. One day I was not feeling very well, so I left work and came home. I realised that my boyfriend was also at home. When I opened the door, this girl and my boyfriend were naked as the day they were born, having sex. I took the mop stick and gave him some blows. When she got up, I held her by her breast and dragged her. My boyfriend had to hold me back and tell me it was not her fault. He said he came home and begged her for a little sex and she agreed. I packed up her things the same day, and asked her to leave.

My boyfriend called a taxi and took her away. I called my cousin and told her what I experienced and she came over and spoke to us. I am still with this man, but I am still crying. I cannot believe that this girl we were trying to help came into my house to steal this man from me.

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

I am surprised that this man told you that he was the one who approached her for sex.

Generally, the men always blame the girls. But if he had asked her for sex, she didn't have to agree, but she is young and naive. He suspected that she loves him. But he ought to be blamed for what he did. You caught them in the very act. I hope you will never trust this man again, and I hope that this young lady will learn from this very bad experience.

Pastor